Firestarters

I have the privilege of being in a men's Bible study group with some rock solid dudes. We are currently reading a great book, and I wanted to share the premise with you all, the blog readers. It is called "Choosing to Cheat" and is written by Andy Stanley. (Click on the title and you will be taken to the Amazon page to purchase it)

And while I have learned a lot from the book, I have also learned a lot from the other men, hearing their personal stories on how they thrive or fail on "cheating" their families.

In our society these days it becomes very easy to become busy with many different things, sometimes, in the end, it is our family that suffers.

As a matter of fact, in a conversation a couple of weeks ago Bon was talking to a gentlemen who said "your children should be your number one ministry." That really hit home for me, and I have taken a little different perspective with Reese, and have come to realize that her spiritual growth and well-being needs to be my highest priority.

I think the summary from Amazon gives some good insight into the book and would recommend it to everyone:

Book Description
Work. Family. Church. Hobbies. Fitness. Housekeeping. Socializing. Sleep. With only 24 hours in each day, we simply can't fit everything in. And what we choose to cheat is a clear announcement of our values. When you come home an hour earlier, miss a round of golf, or let the dishes sit while you play with your child, you make your family feel valued and secure. Bestselling author Andy Stanley helps you restore your vision of what really matters - and guides you in making courageous decisions about your time.

Who are you cheating?

You love your family. You love the challenges of your job. But there’s not enough of you to go around. Somebody isn’t getting as much of your attention as they want or deserve.

This little book presents a strategic plan for resolving the tension between work and home—reversing the destructive pattern of giving to your company and career what belongs to your family.

But be forewarned...you will have to cheat.

Story Behind the Book

Andy has spent hundreds of hours with men and women who have cheated their families for the sake of their career goals. They all admitted knowing there was a problem. This is not a struggle relegated to some diminutive segment of society. We all wrestle with the tension between work and family. Regardless of which side of the equation you are on, you know what it is like to deal with the endless cycle of guilt, anger, jealousy, and rejection. But there is a solution. Strangely enough, the solution is similar to the problem. Both involve cheating. Simply put, you must choose to cheat at work rather than at home.